emdr therapy for women in oregon
Virtual therapy available to clients located in the state of Oregon.
One of the things I hear most often from the women who come to work with me is some version of, "I mostly understand why I do this, but I still feel stuck. The pattern is still there."
Many women have spent years reflecting on themselves. They've been in therapy before, read books, tried meditation. They're often incredibly insightful. They can tell me where a pattern came from, with a kaleidoscope of perspectives and frameworks.
And yet they still find themselves giving in when they want to set a boundary. They still freeze when they're trying to make an important decision. They still struggle to fully trust themselves, receive support, rest, speak honestly, or take action toward what they actually want.
EMDR is most often described as a trauma therapy, and it can be incredibly effective for processing traumatic experiences. But the way I use EMDR is often much broader than that. I'm interested in the ways our early experiences and intergenerational heritage shape the beliefs, emotional responses, relational patterns, and nervous system adaptations that continue to organize our lives long after those experiences are needed for survival.
survival
Many of the women I work with are carrying patterns that made sense at one point in their lives. Maybe staying small helped them avoid criticism. Maybe being highly attuned to other people's needs helped them maintain connection. Maybe perfectionism, over functioning, self abandonment, or constantly anticipating what others needed became a way of creating safety in environments where safety felt uncertain.
These patterns are not signs that something is wrong. They're signs that your nervous system adapted intelligently to the conditions it was living in.
The challenge is that what helped you survive at one stage of life can become limiting in another.
I've found that many women who come to work with me already know exactly what they want: deeper relationships, More fluid creativity, More ease and rest, More self trust, More freedom, more aliveness, More courage to be themselves.
But every time they move toward those things, something pulls them back, or they hit a heavy invisible wall. They aren’t lacking motivation or insight, but some part of their system still associates those experiences with risk. the expansion required to hold those states feels dangerous.
how does emdr help?
EMDR helps us access the deeper networks of memory, emotion, sensation, and meaning that shape how we experience ourselves and the world. Through the reprocessing process, experiences that were never fully integrated can begin to settle and reorganize. The goal isn't to erase memories or convince yourself to think differently. The goal is to help your nervous system update old learning that may no longer be serving you.
remembering who you were, before the world told you who to be.
This work about helping to loosen the grip of old adaptations so that you have more choice and agency in how you live and create your one wild and precious life. It's about creating the conditions for transmutation of intergenerational inheritance into healing, expansion into states of joy and creativity, and more security in building healthy relationships.
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